Month: June 2019

When I think of parenting, one of the first things I think of is survival. Trying to survive each day. Trying to keep your sanity. Trying to keep this mini human alive. So it makes sense that one of our core survival instincts, the ‘Fight, Flight, Freeze’ (or Acute Stress Response) would play an important role in parenting, not only in how it helps us, but also in how it can hinder us. While there is plenty of information explaining the ‘Fight, Flight, Freeze’ response on the internet, the below explanation looks at applying this concept to some common parenting experiences (using some of my own experiences as examples). So lets take a look at some Fight, Flight, Freeze examples in parenting.
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I sometimes think back to where my mind was at prior to having a baby, when my wife was still pregnant and we were in the ‘expecting phase’. At the time we were just over the moon to be having a baby, so I thought I knew what to expect as a new dad. And the challenge is that nothing can really prepare you. You can read tonnes of blogs, watch YouTube videos of peoples experiences, or even have friends tell you the honest truth. But none of that will prepare you, because you haven’t been through it yourself. You have nothing to compare those stories against in your own personal experience bank. So what your brain does compare the stories to, are experiences that it thinks are related. Let me run through some of my own personal examples.

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